Marital love is comprised of sexual attraction (eros love), family love (storage love) and best friend love (philos love). Without the Holy Spirit, any of these can be present independently in a relationship. But for there to be a permanent balance of these three aspects of human marital love, the Holy Spirit must be present bringing another kind of love called agape love (God's love) - working through all the elements of a relationship, like the oil in a finely tuned engine.
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..." (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
Jesus told Nicodemus how to enter into a relationship with Him through the Salvation experience of being born again:
"Jesus answered, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’" (John 3:5-7)
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